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Sometimes kids welcome divorce, child custody changes

Tolison & Williams | 7 February, 2014 | Divorce, Child Custody

For Colorado parents who are preparing to divorce, the impact that this decision will have on their children is often their most pressing concern. Parents worry that their kids will react poorly to the change in the family structure, or that problems at school or home will result. In many cases, however, children are actually relieved that their parents are going to live apart, and will handle child custody changes far better than parents imagine.

One scenario in which kids are glad for the changes that come with divorce is when there has been a great deal of strife within the home. When parents fight, kids take notice, even when the adults try to shield them from arguments. Over time, this creates a level of chronic stress within the home, which can make kids anxious and tense, even when things are relatively calm. Moving into two separate households often provides an immediate end to this ongoing tension, and kids can breathe easier.

Another aspect of adult contention that affects kids involves the high level of stress felt by mom and dad. Parents who are engaged in regular strife will inevitably make choices that will negatively impact their kids. This can come in the form of less patience, a shorter fuse or simply a lack of energy to play with one's children. Over time, kids notice these small changes, and are glad when a divorce allows both parents to refocus their attention away from arguing and back toward their children.

When divorce is on the horizon, Colorado parents should know that the end of a marriage is not always a negative result for shared children. By ensuring that the child custody agreement reached is fair and balanced, kids can enjoy their time with both parents after the divorce. In fact, once the adults have moved beyond their roles as partners, the result may be stronger parent/child bonds for all involved.

Source: The Huffington Post, 5 Reasons Kids From Unhappy Homes Say It's Better To Divorce Than Stay Married, No author, Jan. 27, 2014